How to Have Patience
in a Relationship?
Patience: The fundamental
element in a couple
There are many attributes necessary for a couple to work: namely listen, to
talk openly, be loving, be attentive to detail, etc. But nothing is as
important as patience. In fact, this is a fundamental element in a couple
because you should stay focused and not be swayed by the whims.
When we talk about a couple we refer to two different people, but complementing
each other who has different tastes, different interests, opposing thoughts,
etc. For this reason patience is a must. Especially of the absence or loss of
this quality raises many problems and disadvantages.
So you can have this attribute in your relationship and implement it
successfully, in this article we present different tricks. The idea is to learn
to relax and pursue your partner status in a healthier way.
Secrets to handle
patience
Rate Yourself
Like all personal aspects which are about to be changed, the main thing is performing
a self-evaluation. Here is how you can : usually you think of expressing your
thoughts, your ability to listen and understand others and how long it takes to
get nervous during an argument. From there, the idea is to look for ways to
publicize your thoughts more patiently and exercise your listening skills. If
you get angry quickly you block your mind to the contributions of others and you'll
hardly be patient.
Part of the assessment is to think about what those situations that make you
jump nerves are. The best way to change that attitude is to think how you would
treat yourself in such contexts, and try to act the same way.
It is also good to think how you feel after those moments when you lose
patience, and how you would feel if you did not. You will see that the feeling
you experience is unpleasant, thus it will motivate you to to change your
attitude quickly.
Breathe
When you feel you lost your patience, nothing can beat like having prepared
a series of phrases or words like a mantra. The idea is that these remind you
that you can achieve the same goal by acting calm manner and how the situation
becomes unpleasant whenever you lose patience. You will see that this will be
of much help to achieve calmness.
On the other hand, in a situation where it remains calm is much easier for
people to communicate. We've already noted above that losing patience is
accompanied by a mental block that prevents you truly understand the other and
carry on the conversation.
Analyze the situation
After working on yourself, it's also good to reflect on the relationship as
a whole. By this we mean that you must study what are the strengths about you
and your partner’s. This will help you to know what times should be more
patient and appreciate your partner at the time of disgust. Again the secret is
to know to think how you would like to be treated by your weaknesses, so we can
act the same way with others.
Furthermore, it is also important fact analyze the ego level of both. We must
be aware that a couple is formed by two people. Your viewpoint is only part of
the equation, and you should try to adapt it to your spouse.
Bring Controls
A good way to see if you are moving or not in your task of winning Patience
is; take control of it. This can be done through a diary in which you can write
about all those times when you feel impatient. Notes should be clear to you
then you know precisely when you need to apply more patience. Becoming aware of
these situations and when you feel anxiety, will be the key to improvement.
Avoid external
influences
Sometimes lack of patience is due to stress generated in other areas, such
as family or work. Evaluates whether consciously is because your partner does
not deserve to be the receptacle to the problems you have in other fields. You
can talk to him / her about it so he can comfort and counsel, but never
mistreat under the excuse that you're having a bad time which has nothing to do
with the relationship.
It may seem very difficult task to increase the patience level, but with
courage and will all change it is possible. As the main motivation to carry out
this task, we recommend you think about the immense benefits that patience can
bring not only to your life partner, but also to your emotional health.