Just broke up with your
partner or your marriage? The time of initial
pain is already passed but there is still confusion, emptiness
and numerous contradictory feelings.
Sentimental Shock, heartbreak,
frustration, guilt ... All this will overcome with time and a positive attitude. Some simple tricks will help you appreciate the good thing about life without him or her.
The psychological preparation before the
change is one of the first things you need to do if we sense that a break will
occur. At the time of separation or breaking stage where the pain
is larger, it is necessary to analyze
the feelings. Stop self-blame or living in
the memories.
After this the first phase,
resentment and sorrow must begin to
overcome. It's time to be more independent and see things more objectively. It's time to look for new ways to enjoy
life and to recover to friends,
to return to hobbies or new ones created.
Restoring confidence in oneself is essential to meet
this new challenge.
Five
Attitudes To Help Overcome A Break
1.
Think Positive:
The stage just ended was bad, but your life
has not ended. When the monotony is broken it can be a good time to undertake
a series of projects that you always
wanted to do. These do not have
to be major changes, at least initially. At first, small daily changes which can help you get a
taste for your new life.
2. Renew: Change your look and renew everything in your home that can bring you bad memories or negative vibrations. Otherwise, it may cause you to not reach the mental state necessary to turn around your life. But you should never try to forget all your
previous relationship, the key is to overcome not forget.
Neither is to romanticize the relationship and do not keep every detail or object that reminds you about the person you loved,
as a relic. Haircut, go out and get the hair style you always wanted but
never did. Try again
to be handsome /
sexy but without
becoming something that is not
you. Above all know that change is only for you and not for the opposite sex.
3.
Find Support
/ Seek Help: Do not try to pass the ordeal all alone.
Although it is not good to depend on anyone, the fact is that to face
much change is good clinging to loved ones.
It is appropriate to look at the friends you already
had, caring relationships and
find new support. If you have a very low
mood, seek medical or psychological professional help. The foods cooked by
mother, the support of your brothers, or coffee with
a friend can be the solution.
4. Be Active : Stay active both physically
and mentally. Exercising regularly will improve your
mood and social
status and continue
going out with friends and family.
Do not forget the intellectual sphere: keep your job, get
involved in projects, read about
topics that interest you. Subscribe
to an NGO or a recreational association of separated or divorced can be a new way to build
relationships, to feel useful and be active.
5. Give It Time / Allow Time:
The process of mourning for late separation between
6 and 18 months, do not pretend that
your case is different. Do not
make major changes in your life
suddenly. All should be small steps. Do things that
you find enjoyable.
Write a list of things you’d like and try them regularly.