Male Desire, Female Desire: Differences?

He wants sex, she does not. He enjoys the morning; but she would prefer the evening time. The cravings of men and ladies don't generally go at the same pace. How do you explain that?

Desire is the Engine of Sexuality.

A relationship without desire runs the risk of turning quickly into friendship. There are different factors; physical and psychological simultaneously come into play in order to achieve sexual desire, lifestyle, education, hormones, erotic fantasies, feelings.

The influence of hormones

The hormone is testosterone desire in both men and women. This hormone is produced in the testes and adrenal glands of men and ovaries in women. As contrast to men the rate of testosterone is lower in women, this can be a clarification of why the sexual desire is so smaller?
Actually it does not have to, because women’s body is much more sensitive to testosterone than the male body. The difference is thus compensated. Hormonal fluctuations, especially during the menstrual cycle influence particularly the intensity of female desire. The days preceding ovulation, women’s body stores up to estrogen, is the time when their libido is at its peak (except for those who take contraceptive methods, of course). But after childbirth the woman secretes ‘prolactin’ a anti-desire hormone.

Psychological factors

Education, culture, social and religious prohibitions inherited from past centuries is still exerting significant pressure on women who experience less desire than men. This would explain why men more easily dissociate sexual desire and feelings: making love with a person they are not in love. But the closer they feel to their partner it is when the man’s libido is the strongest. In fact, the desire in men tends to be more impulsive, i.e. it is caused from within, while the desire in woman is rather caused by the excitement of the partner, a supportive environment, a state of relaxation conducive to sex.

Age and sex drive

- In men, sexual desire appears at puberty, after the first masturbation. It grows to 50, but may decline after. Some men experience ‘andropause’, continuous decrease of testosterone causes a decrease in libido.

- If the desire is awakened later in women it happens with increases in time and especially the experience. Sexual maturity is around 35 years. At the time of menopause, estrogen rate decreases, ovaries produce less testosterone. But as psychological factors also influence the desire need not diminish. This period in the women’s life often marks a return of desire.

Best Moments for Him and Her

But he always wants sex in the morning, while she is in a hurry and half asleep? Do not think that is the opposite take. The rate of testosterone of men increases 30% in the morning! Hence his libido exaggerates in the morning. Meanwhile women need to feel relaxed, carefree look forward to. The right time is usually at night, after the kids are in bed and office problems are forgotten. So sometimes it is difficult to match the desire of both.

As for the time of year, biorhythms are also involved. Women experience an increased desire by spring by a significant rise in estrogen. As for men, the desire increases especially at the beginning of the summer.

How to Agree?

When a partner does not feel like having sex, if you feel that, which makes you feel like you are being unloved, unwanted or even rejected. When such unpleasant experiences happen it is best for both to start the conversation. Everyone should express their feelings and frustrations to renew the relationship with the other.

Finally, do not hesitate to force a little at first, thanks to the caresses and kisses which awake the desire naturally.